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 enlarge | Author: Shaunti Feldhahn
Publisher: Multnomah Books
Category: Book
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Rating:  227 reviews
Sales Rank: 893
Media: Hardcover
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Pages: 208
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Dimensions (in): 7.1 x 5.2 x 0.8
ISBN: 1590523172
Dewey Decimal Number: 248
EAN: 9781590523179
ASIN: 1590523172
Publication Date: July 28, 2004
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 Its got a general idea. April 3, 2005
10 out of 30 found this review helpful
Someone else had made the appropriate review of this book. I can say that I read this book while waiting for my girlfriend to get off of work while I waited at a nearby book store. After finishing the book, I thought about a lot of things. I can agree that there are a lot of similarities between what she has concluded. Then again on other ideas I felt so far alienated from them that I couldn't understand where such a conclusion was drawn. To put it simple I think if you are looking for a little more information about your man, just ask him. Relationships work with compromises and communication not because one falls into conformity with the ideas of a particular book. When I look at this book I can say that this book doesn't speak for men in general but as previously pointed out some aspects of each conclusion should be seen in each man.
Another man's perspective: Do I get off this easy? March 23, 2005
205 out of 228 found this review helpful
I recently ordered this book for my wife's birthday as a way of opening up one more avenue of communication and understanding in our marriage. After reading it myself first, I increasingly felt very hesitant to give it to my wife. Why? Although the book certainly raises important issues that are a great conversational starting point, I can't help but feel that Feldhahn's book is saturated with a particular kind of "submissive wife" ideology common in various evangelical Protestant circles. One of Feldhahn's driving theses is that men are wired a certain way, so the key to a successful marriage is for women to discover the intricacies of that wiring and then adapt themselves accordingly (Feldhahn tells her women readers that these "fascinating new secrets" about men are "supposed to change and improve us [women]" [p.19-20]). Although that might be in fact what men want, I'm unconvinced that is always what we or our marriages need. Following the suggestions in this book might make a happier husband but a more unfulfilled, subservient wife.
That's not to say I can't relate to much of what she describes. Her analysis of the inner wiring of men is interesting and accurate for the most part (although certainly some aspects are probably overstated), but it's her prescriptive "solutions" that seem misguided. In my experience, a marriage works best when good communication leads to mutual compromises. To have wives coddle their husbands might produce the desired results in the short term, but I think it is worth thinking about the reciprocal nature of a good marriage for long-term success. Is it too much to ask that husbands should work just as hard to figure out the needs and desires of their wives and adapt themselves as well? I hope not. Unless this is a two-side process, the long term benefits are questionable at best.
But again, she does manage to capture many of the core struggles of the average man. No one man (hopefully) embodies all the fears, anxieties, and problems she describes, but it would be a rare man that could identify with none of them. I still plan on giving the book to my wife (with a host of qualifications) because it does in some ways describe my own inner fears, desires, and struggles, but my hesitancy to do so still remains simply because of the implicit message to women.
 Inside The Mind Of The Married/Unmarried Man March 16, 2005
26 out of 31 found this review helpful
While hesitant because of the author's religious-book credentials, I whole-heartedly fell in love with her intelligent, thoughtful, even-handed approach to understanding the differences between men and women. A great book for single women looking for insight or married women looking for deeper connections. An unusual and delightful read. I also really enjoyed a book about marriage and parenting, written by a stressed-out dad, "I Sleep At Red Lights: A True Story of Life After Triplets," a hilarious and wonderful memoir.
Wife's complete guidebook to loving & understanding her man March 15, 2005
33 out of 38 found this review helpful
When my best friend told me about Shaunti Feldhahn's book
For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, I didn't quite believe it could top my absolute favorite book on relating to men: Dr. Laura Schlessinger's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. But after searching every book store in town to find For Women Only, I came home and read it in one sitting. For Women Only needs a better cover, but that's my only complaint.
Inside the striped cover of For Women Only, I found a concise, encouraging message that motivated me to apply what I discovered in its pages. More succinct and less blunt, with scriptural principles instead of crass terms, For Women Only now tops Proper Care and Feeding on my list.
For Women Only is a must-read for every woman who has (or hopes to have) a man in her life. It is a book I will go back to time and again (along with the articles in this February's issue of Focus on the Family Magazine), for reminders on the best way to love, respect, and support my man. But I would still recommend Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands for additional guidance--you can't beat Dr. Laura's signature down-to-earth practicality.
Shaunti's book had two chapters that Dr. Laura's didn't. From Shaunti I learned about a man's visual Rolodex that he battles every day (which relates to what she and Dr. Laura both have to say about how important it is that we look good for our man). And her research revealed that men really do like romance, their definition of it just varies from ours sometimes.
For Women Only is written based on results from a survey Shaunti conducted of hundreds of men. The revelations of the survey astounded her, especially when she found out that they were the very things her husband had always wished she had known about him. After you read For Women Only, you will be thankful that Shaunti felt compelled to share her findings with the rest of us. The seven truths she shares will have a dramatic effect on your relationship with your man. The seven principles will guide you as you seek to better support, respect, and understand the men in your life.
For Women Only combines the wisdom of Dr. Emerson Eggerichs' book Love and Respect, with the sometimes startling truths of Stephen Arterbur's Every Man's Battle, and the wisdom of Dr. Laura's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, for a wife's complete guidebook to loving and understanding her man.
It's For Women Only...and only every woman should read it.
Wow! A must for all women! February 4, 2005
15 out of 21 found this review helpful
You think you know the man in your life. Then a book like this comes out, based on the input of "our" men, and wow, you see things from a whole new angle. This book is a quick read, but very enlightening. I can grasp now why my husband does certain things and how I can show him, in his language, that I appreciate him totally for the wonderful man he is! Well worth it!
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