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Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs | 
 enlarge | Author: Emerson Eggerichs
Publisher: Thomas Nelson
Category: Book
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Rating:  209 reviews
Sales Rank: 351
Media: Hardcover
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Pages: 240
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Dimensions (in): 9 x 6.3 x 1.4
ISBN: 1591451876
Dewey Decimal Number: 248.844
EAN: 9781591451877
ASIN: 1591451876
Publication Date: September 7, 2004
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Based upon Ephesians 5:33 and extensive biblical and psychological research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs reveals the power of unconditional love and unconditional respect and how husbands and wives can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.
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 Putting Marriage in Perspective July 2, 2008
My husband and I have been married for 10 years this month. Just about 3 months ago things between us had escalated to the point that my husband almost walked out the door. After going through an in depth personal evaluation and realizing places where I need to change, and coming to terms with certain struggles in my life, I began to focus on my marriage and what I could do to begin the process of improving it and repairing the damage. This is not to say that everything in my marriage is my fault - I know very well that it takes two to make a marriage and two to break a marriage. However, I also know that the only person I can change is me - and that is a great place to start. I found this book, Love & Respect on Amazon.com and after reading the reviews decided to purchase it. I am so glad that I did. I think the book is very well written. It gives really great advice to both the husband and the wife and give specific ways for you to begin showing each other love and respect. There are a lot of ways for which I have not respected my husband in our marriage. Now I have found a source to help me rebuild my marriage. It can begin w/ me showing my husband unconditional respect. This book stresses that the respect you show your husband must be unconditional, regardless of whether the way he is treating you at the time feels unloving. If you press on, always working to show unconditional respect for your husband, a wife has the awesome power to begin changing the way her husband responds to her. If he feels respected by his wife, he is going want to respond in a loving way to his wife and comfort her and support her. This is also written for the husband - to show his wife unconditional love, regardless of whether she is giving him respect. If two people in a marriage are good-willed people, they are bound to respond to each other positively by giving their spouse what their spouse needs most. For a husband, he needs to feel that his wife respects him. For a wife, she needs to feel that her husband truly loves her. In the short amount of time that I have read this book and started to put the unconditional respect rule into motion w/ my husband, I have already seen positive results. We have a long way to go to rebuild our marriage, but so far I feel like we are on our way. This book has great advice and good insight into what a husband needs and what a wife needs. Well worth the time and money!!
Love & Respect July 2, 2008
This book is a wonderful examination of one of the key Biblical concepts of marriage--that a woman needs love and a man needs respect. This book will help couples realize the importance of mutual adoration and admiration. I highly recommend it (and so does my husband)!
i can finally understand him!!!! whew!!!! June 28, 2008
ok - i never write reviews, but i've gotta on this one... not gonna go into long explanation, but ladies - PLEASE GET THIS BOOK!!!! I am sooooo glad i did - i reread it every year to remember how to treat my husband and understand why he does and acts the way he does. In return, he's sooooo much more sensitive and knowledgeable about MY needs and desires. The author explains men in ways they can't or have trouble explaining themselves - very detailed and sensitive.
Luckily I found this book early in our marriage - we were on an ugly start to the "crazy cycle". It is NOT some loony "Me-tarzan, you-jane" sexist book - It is extremely insightful and sensitive to both men AND woman. It is Christian-based, but not over-the-top - would be just fine and actually perfect for new or searching Christians. if, however, you want an almost identical book without the religion, get "His needs, Her needs".... I skimmed thru that one and it seemed to have the same points. I like the biblical back-up of Love and Respect though. Anyway - my husband and I get this book for all newlyweds now.
 Truth seeker June 16, 2008
2 out of 4 found this review helpful
Emerson Eggrichs clearly states in his notes in the back of the book, that it is important to make a distinction between theology and theory. He goes on to distinguish that `The Love and Respect Connection' is his theory in which he infers from Ephesians 5:33.
It seems that Mr. Eggrichs is pitting spouses against each other by pointing out how different men and women are and using many derogatory statements about what women are thinking about men and vise versa. Thus creating separation rather than unity . . . you know, `and the two shall become one.' My husband agrees that Emerson Eggrichs seems to grind spouses against each other like sandpaper rather than bringing them together in unity.
Mr. Eggrichs quotes John Gottman, a renowned and well-respected University of Washington psychology professor. However, he fails to keep the context of the studies by omitting John Gottman's scientific research to include `mutual' love and respect. Direct quotes from John Gottman's books:
"No matter what style of marriage they have adopted, their discussions, for the most part, are carried along by a strong undercurrent of two basic ingredients: love and respect. These are the direct opposite of - and antidote for- contempt, perhaps the most corrosive force in marriage. But all the ways partners show each other love and respect also ensure that the positive-to-negative ratio of a marriage will be heavily tilted to the positive side." . . . "By this I mean a mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other's company." . . . "They don't just "get along"- they also support each other's hopes and aspirations and build a sense of purpose into their lives together. That is really what I mean when I talk about honoring and respecting each other." "...you need to understand the bottom-line difference that is causing the conflict between you-and to learn how to live with it by honoring and respecting each other." (Reference John Gottman's books `Why Marriages Succeed or Fail' pages 61 and 62 as well as `The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work' pages 19, 23 and 24.)
I do not recommend that you spend your time or energy on this nauseatingly repetitive book when there are so many good books to choose from that can actually help create harmony in your marriage.
Great Insights from a Humble Learner June 4, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
My husband and I (12 years) have a wonderful marriage, but I read this book anyway since my wonderful Christain counselor highly recommended it. This is the only Christain marriage book I've been able to complete - a surprise for me! Emerson helped me to understand why we have such a great marriage. I plan to keep it in stock and give them as gifts to the engaged and the unhappily married. I've already passed on my first copy. The other Christain "wedding gifts" books (yes, even the popular) were too superficial, full of cliches, and lost on a book shelf before even finishing the first chapter. There are too many bad publishers that allow good meaning Christains to write too many bad books in the name of Christainity, aren't there? Which is why I make it a point to put in good reviews of good Christain books.
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